Even though I’m not much of a new year’s resolution maker, I do like to take this time to reflect on the year that’s gone by. 2016 was a bit of a roller coaster and ended on a really low note for me and a lot of people I know. There’s been a lot of loss and heartache amid the peaks of this past year, so instead of thinking about what I want to do in 2017, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want to leave behind.
I am the girl of 1000 projects. I always seem to have about 15 things on the go and will still be the first person to say ‘I can do that!’ when people are looking for help. This year I’m hoping to be a little kinder to myself by accepting that I can’t do it all, and that’s ok! Instead, I’m hoping to prioritize a few key projects to devote my time and energy to.
We all know these people – they constantly bring drama and conflict into your life without really ‘bringing anything to table’ as they say. They may be acquaintances, co-workers, people who orbit your social circle, or even family members. At this stage in the game, I’ve realized that I don’t need to spend my energy maintaining relationships with people who bring nothing but negativity. While I don’t feel the need to be mean about it, I’ve come to a place where I’m ok with being proactive about not letting these kinds of people impact my life. Sometimes that’s through unfollowing or unfriending them on social media, keeping social interactions minimal and polite, or straight up telling them why I need to minimize contact. Initially, I felt like I wasn’t being very nice, but life is short and every second spent getting caught up in someone else’s negativity prevents me from sharing time and energy with people who bring awesome to my life.
I’m an expert grudge holder. It’s certainly not one of my more attractive qualities but, if you cross me, I will never forget it. One of my yoga teachers recently reminded me of the quote “Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die,” and it rang so true for me. Here I am being all pissed off about how some person wronged me god-knows-how-long-ago, and they’re off living their lives not giving it a second thought. What a waste! I’m hoping to put that behind me and work on letting go of the grudges and the people who inspire them (see Toxic Relationships).
THE NEED FOR STUFF
Slowly but surely over the last year, I’ve been purging ‘stuff’ from my life. It started with my capsule wardrobe and has now fueled this desire to get rid of things that I don’t love or need. While I don’t know that I’ll ever bee a full-blown minimalist, I’m definitely hoping to leave the habit of buying things just to have them when I don’t need them and I’m not actually using them (I’m looking at you, makeup drawer!). Stay tuned for a project 20-pan and makeup declutter coming your way!
So that’s what I’m leaving behind this year. I’m hoping it will make space for awesome things in 2017. Let me know what you’re leaving behind in 2016 in the comments below!